The Respect Dare … and His Blessings
Brilliant Light of God After a morning run, I rested near our garden pond and listened to the sounds of water cascading over rocks into water. Glancing back toward the house, I caught an...
View ArticleThe Respect Dare… for Non-Christians
Rationale for Respect Several years ago, I had a discussion with a woman who adamantly refused to demonstrate respect towards her husband. She felt he hadn’t done anything to deserve it. She’s not a...
View ArticleOne thing you MUST do in conflict
Yes. There IS one thing you simply MUST do when in conflict. If you don’t, you’ll stay stuck, won’t resolve things, and be discouraged. And your relationship simply won’t change. What I’m about to...
View ArticleDealing with defensiveness?
If you want to know how to deal with defensiveness, you’ll need to know the basic why’s and how’s of respect. Here’s why: Defensiveness divides in relationships. I don’t think there’s a better place...
View ArticleDeflate Defensiveness in 2018
Deflating Defensiveness in 2018 My marriage isn’t easy, but I married a really wounded man, he was neglected as a child, and those wounds show up in his lack of trust that anyone is ever really there...
View ArticleCan I humbly ask for prayer?
I’m humbly asking for prayer… It’s not often that I highjack my blog with a prayer request. I think the last time you saw me do this was when my husband had open heart surgery three years ago. And I...
View ArticleWithout this, your marriage won’t change…
Without this, your marriage won’t change. I experienced the benefits of what I’m about to say over the weekend. Bear with me for a moment as I share with you what happened, and the small but BIG...
View ArticleAre you causing conflicts by accident?
What if you are causing conflicts by accident? He’s complaining and you want to help him, want to encourage him, give him a different point of view… and everything goes south? Wondering what happened?...
View ArticleLove the negativity?
Do you just LOVE the negative environment you’re in? Enjoying the constant complaining, criticizing, and condemning that’s going on? I didn’t think so… Wish you could change the atmosphere? You know...
View ArticleDefensive or Offended Much?
Are you or do you know someone who gets defensive easily? You’re often surprised by their reaction – they take things personally, are easily offended, and make things about them. Sound familiar? The...
View ArticleWhy you’re still fighting…
Ever wonder why you’re still fighting? Wish there was something you could do about it? I talk to tons of people who are in relationships that have the same cycle – someone states an opinion, the other...
View ArticleGot toxic people?
We all have toxic people in our lives. Sometimes they are US. One morning last week in the communication class I teach at a local college, we were covering relationship-damaging behaviors, and what...
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Will you also say, “Yes?”
Say, “Yes,” to Listen… Around 20 years ago, I had a new awakening with the Lord. He got me up at 4am and I felt compelled to read the gospel story of Jesus’ death and resurrection. I had read it...
View ArticleEver Wonder What to Say & How to Say It?
I know I have wondered what to say & how to say it. You know, those freak-out moments where you stand deer-in-headlights style wondering what just happened, shocked at what’s been said, done, or...
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Carrying the Weight of the Relationship?
Are you carrying the weight of your relationship? Susan stood in the doorway looking at her husband sort the mail and pay bills. He finally looked up, noticing her, asking, “What’s up?” “We ARE...
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Why respecting yourself changes your marriage…
Why respecting yourself changes your marriage… What if respecting yourself mattered in whether or not your respect for your spouse would even be received? The data shows that it does. Check out this...
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Why it’s disrespectful to demand communication…
Are you demanding communication from your spouse? You need to stop. Why? It’s disrespectful to him – he knows he isn’t in a space to have a discussion, and you won’t respect his boundary It makes...
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3 Ways You are Blowing up Your Marriage
3 Ways You are Blowing up Your Marriage “He never takes me anywhere, he just comes home from work and lays on the couch watching TV or hiding in his home office on his phone. I’ve been home all day...
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Is Neediness Ruining Your Marriage?
Is Neediness Ruining Your Marriage? Rosanne looked at the clock and couldn’t believe only 17 minutes had dragged by. Seemed like about four hours… Her coach had warned her not to initiate conversation...
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Is he married to you or…?
Is he married to you or…? If you are married to an entrepreneur, pastor, engineer soldier, police officer, firefighter, business leader, or are a start-up wife, you have a special set of UNIQUE...
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